Where is the other?

How many of people out there like me , would happilly agreed to A LONG DISTANCE relationship?

Especially when one is taking about taking the sole responsibility of upbringing the youngsters?..

Tiring..

Patience is testing. How long?

When I mentioned about the youngsters of mine, it is simply inaccurate...by saying..or be patient, have patient..no..cannot ma....

Kids are growing up, cannot buy back the time lost of not watching how do they grow up, how do they face the many challenges of a teenager....( even toddler comes with their packages..), how do u motivate them, how do you discipline them...how do you love, listen and be gentle....and at the same time assertive and be a friend to them..

Oh oh..I cd feel the world is spinning!!!

People come into your life for a reason

Ok.I know..SOme might have heard or read this somewhere..but today I feel like sharing it again.. (woiitt!!..excuse me ~ ciplak and copy cat!!!:DD)

PEOPLE COME INTO YOUR LIFE FOR A REASON

 People come into your life for a reason, a season or a

lifetime.

When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that

person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a

need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a

difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you

physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a

godsend and

they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be.

Then,

without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,

this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an

end.

Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act

up and force you to take a stand.

 What we must realize is that our need has been met, our

desire

fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been

answered and now it is time to move on.

 

Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your

turn has

come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace

or

make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done.

  They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it,

it is real.

But only for a season

 LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you

must

build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job

is to

accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned

to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is

said that love

is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

 

Thank you for being a part of my life, whether you were a reason, a season or are a lifetime.

Omg..Jan 2011 is ending..

And I am still no near to the execution of this new year's resolution..so how?..so how?..

Later in deep thinking and praying mode: I pray..Oh Allah My Almighty, let me accept the things I cannot change, let me have the courage to change what I can, and pls Lord, let me have the wisdom to know the difference.

Is changing so hard?...One thing for sure...while many other things are considerably constant but change is not!

I want to lead a happy life..just like others..with few life's hiccups...that will do..

But for me to be happy, I must ensure that my loved ones are happy too...

Kids are happy, I am happy!!

And listening to oldies seems to be music to my ears....besides rukyah etc..

ANd I'll be back...wishing happiness to all readers...

.See u when I see u.. oopss..is there such a phrase?.But my friend says there is such a phrase..in Ocean 13 the movie...owwaaa.....must watch then?
But when?

Teguhkan masjidku ~ Alhidayah TV3 : 7 jan 2011 & 14 Jan 2011)- Ustazah Norafizah Musa

Ustazah membuka bicara dengan mengatakan setiap kita yang menempuhi alam rumahtangga inginkan ianya bahagia dan berkekalan hingga akhir hayat. Namun kadang2 ade di antara yang akan ditimpa musibah, jesturu masjid yang dibina, roboh di tengah jalan..Penceraian adalah suatu perkara yang halal tetapi paling dibenci oleh Allah.

Pada zaman rasulullah, ade isteri kepada sahabat baginda yang datang dan mengadu kepada rasulullah lalu inginkan perceraian.

Tanya RAsullullah : kenapa kamu ingin bercerai? Lalu dijawabnya :" Kerana saya takut akan menderhaka kepada suami saya. Rasullullah bertanya lagi: Sanggupkah kamu memulangkan kebun/tanaman yang telah ditanam oleh suamimu? dan perempuan itu menjawab: "Ya rasulullah, saya sanggup. DAn pasangan itu pun bercerai.

Apakah implikasi dan persiapan emosi yang perlu ade pada setiap wanita khasnya yang melalui proses penceraian:-

1. Ambil iktibar dari kisah Ummu Salamah dan dekatkan diri dengan Allah serta banyak bersabar. jgn gusar tentang masalah yang akan dihadapi kerana Allah telah berjanji dalam surah Annisa Ayat 130 :" Jika kedua laki-isteri bercerai, maka Allah akan memberi kesenangan bagi masing2nya dengan kurnianya. Allah lapang (kurniaNya) lagi maha bijaksana.
2. Bina kekuatan hati dengan merapatkan silaturrahim di antara saudaar, jiran tetangga dan sahabat. Sessunggunhnya kemanisan dari ukhwah sedemikian akan memberi kekuatan.
3. Berdoa dan berdoa pada Allah agar digantikan dengan yang lebih baik.

Dan apabila kedua ibubapa bercerai, anak2 yang terdahulunya akan terkesan. Jesteru kita hendaklah memastikan anak2 faham dan tidak terbiar.Anak-anak merupakan amanah Ilahi . 

Hadis Nabi: Barangsiapa yang dikurniakan anak oleh Allah swt dan dia sayang dan jaga mereka, insya'allah Allahh akan selamatkan mereka dari api neraka.

1. Penceraian tidak akan pernah menafikan kewajipan ibubapa terhadap anak2 mereka.jadi perana ibubapa dalam mendidik dan memberi nafkah mesti diteruskan
2. Anak2 harus difahamkan, sekiranya berlaku apa2 dianata ibubapa mereka, anak2 hendaklah tahu bahawa kasih sayang ibubapa terhadap mereka tidak pernah hilang.
3. beritahu dengan jelas punca sebab ibubapa bercerai bukan kerana anak2 tersebut tetapi oleh sebab ayah dan ibu tidak boleh bersama lagi
4. Sekiranya anak tinggal degn ibu, ibu mendidik anak, maka tanggungjawab bapa untuk memberi nafkah/belanja mesti ditunaikan
5. Jangan sesekali mencemuh pasangan masing dihadapan anak2. Tunjukkna bahawa kita, adalah seorang ibu, yang menghargai ayah kepada anak2 kita.
6. Mohon anak2 berdoa agar ibu atau bapa kembali ke pangkal jalan ( sekiranya tersasar sebelum ini)
7. Sentiasa pelihara emosi anak2 agar mereka tetap membesar dengan sejahtera.
8. Sebelum berpisah, bawa anak2 ke tempat baru yang bakal didiami mereka sekiranya mereka di bawa ibu atau bapa.

Wallahulam..sedikit sebanyak perkongsian. Ampun maaf dii atas khilaf.

old song brings old memories